How To Start A Relationship?

There are a lot of ways.. I bet you don't wanna know it all.. But basically, it all started from your heart. And trust me, I don't really believe in "Dari mata turun ke hati" kindda relationship. It's all crap~ You know why? I'll tell you why.

Sebab, mata hanya menafsir berdasarkan apa yang kita lihat sahaja dan akhirnya hanya memberi persepsi luaran. Bolehkah sebarang perhubungan itu dibina atas dasar luaran? Jika boleh, sejauh mana hubungan itu akan bertahan?

KEBIASAANNYA, hubungan yang lahir dari pandangan mata tidak bertahan lama. *But this is only my humble opinion*. Melainkan dari mata, pergi ke otak untuk ditafsir dengan lebih lanjut dan mengenali pasangan dengan lebih rapat sebelum menjalinkan sesebuah hubungan yang serius. Yess! Jangan bertindak terburu-buru. Ambil masa..Take your own time..But puh-lease~ don't get too long ya~

Anyway, as a woman, a lady, a girl, how many of us have been in a serious relationship since they were at young age? I'd say only 50%. For some people like me, I only know what exactly love is when I was in my 20's. Say..er...23? No! 21. *hehe..malu nak ngaku laa..* I know it's a bit too late to figure out, but hey, I chose the rite one! Alhamdulillah~

So, at least I started dating when I was in the early 20's. There are still a lot of women who are still looking for the perfect person to share their love with, walopun umor dah mencecah angka 30..40..and 50 pown ada!.

However, nomatter how old are you now, everyone of us deserve to love and to be loved. As a human being, we need love to cheerish our life. In order for us to be loved, first thing you hafta do is love yourself.

Back in USM, I had this one honest, smart, simple, "geek" girlfriend I barely know when I was in my second year. *She's the one who helped me out a lot when me and dear had our difficult time in our relationship, at that moment. Thanks loads MakCik* While she was busy "helping me out", she herself didn't really involve in any special relationship with any guy. Yeah, she had no steady boyfriend. That's why she had a thought in mind "Paseipa laaaa depa ni qhajin begadoh sangat..Dok la leklok..Ni tidak..Akuuuuu...jugak.." She just couldn't really understand. But obviously she could think a way to console me~ eheh. Becouse she's smart! And gorgeous too. *Promote sket. Eheh~*

Last few days, she gave me a called. And she told me she's seeing someone. And I said "Whut??? CONGRATSSSSS!!!!" Hahaha.. I was soooooooo daymn happy cause she finally find someone to be loved and I'm sooo glad! But on the other hand, I couldn't notice the happy voices as she used to be. So I asked her why..

"Aku slalu gado jugak laaa..Macam hang dolu-dolu..Macamana hang handle aaa"

Hurm..

"It's been 25 years you'd been handling things on your own. Nobody to ask, no one to 'report' to, no commitment other than to your family, job and few things to run your life..Now, ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE READY FOR ANOTHER COMMITMENT? Are you ready to accept him in your life?" I began asking her the questions..

Well, I give you one situation. I learn this from The Secret written by Rhonda Byrne. And Dihar quoted part of it, and it goes like this...

" If you want to be in a relationship, you should think and act accordingly to what you want. For example if you usually put stuff on the seat beside the driver seat, its like saying you are not wanting a relationship cause you are not letting people sit in that seat. Therefore you need to clear it up to allow somebody to actually sit in it."

And I would say..


"Relationship is like riding a bus heading to places. Various places. People hop in and out. They come and go to continue their journey. Left an empty seat beside you. Since you are carrying a lot of stuff, you put put them on it. Suddenly the bus stop and two men came up. One is a real nasty man smells like garlic and rotten fish and look so untidy and has some cash, enough for his ride. ONLY. The other one is sooo daymn gorgeous, neat, tall, wearing expensive clothes and you bet he's rich. \o/. So, who will you offer the seat beside you? Or you just ignore both and pretend that you were sleeping, don't really bother to move your stuff from the seat?"

My first point is, you will be meeting a lot of people along the journey. If you wanna start a relationship, you hafta accept someone into your life. So, you hafta allow someone to seat beside you on the bus. Then only you start to know him. If you don't, how can you start knowing him? When you accept people in your life, do it honestly. Full heartedly. Then you will plant the greatest seed in your relationship. InsyaAllah..

My second point, choose the right one. Like I said, people come and go. It's you to decide who is your Mr. Right. Don't be silly by getting fooled with the outer look. The garlic smelly man might be a Private Investigator who is doing a cover up. And the handsome rich guy might be a drug dealer ke..Pencetak rompak ke..you knoe..that kindda thing might happen. Choosing the right guy before you settle down is VERY MUCH important.

My last point will be, along the bus ride, there will be a lot of difficulties. You know, traffic jam, uneven road, land slide, and road accidents ke.. It takes all you effort, patience, courage and motivation tau in order for you to get to your destination. You hafta hold each other hand, pray to God, and face the problem together. Talk and talk and always talk when you are having any problems. Don't keep things behind anyone's back cause that will solve nothing.

I guess that's all I could tell. And believe me, The Secret is the best book for you to read and the book you should buy for yourself. Not only it tells about secret of your relationship but your own life. Things you don't really notice..Enjoy building a relationship with your love ones!