I hafta say that life is unfair. If you look from the reality life, there’s no such a thing like “…and we live happily ever after..”. Girls, it’s waaaaaayyyyyy too far than that~ Believe me, living in a house with a stranger you barely know for few years doesn’t really mean that you know him well. Therefore, I think it’s a must for us to take a moment to have few thoughts before you make a big step into a new world..
Some of us may find it really hard when you wanna make the toughest decision like getting married, and some may take some period to think and some may simply say yes. To me, saying ‘yes’ to marriage is kindda difficult at first, it’s not because I am not ready enough *Er..may be a little..* but, saying “I DO” is like making a huge step into a marriage life. A lot of things you should be taking into consideration like er..no more Saturday Night Out with friends, no more lepaking at mamak stall till midnight, no more going for a vacation alone or with friends, no more shopping only for yourself *Hello…you have to do shopping for two people now..even the money is not really from your pocket, but hey, pick something for your hubby so you wont be seeing him in the same shirts or pants for the rest of your life..* A lil dramatic I must say~
Know Yourself Before You Know Others
There’s one question that has popped up in my mind. Do you really know yourself? It’s kindda funny question but hey it’s true. Before you think of accepting someone in your life, you should accept yourself in the first place. A lot of people don’t really understand this until they got married. The best question is to ask yourself “Who am I?” and start listing the good and the bad things about you.
Most of us will have a full list of their good things about themselves I believe. Well, be positive and honest about yourself. If you can’t really figure out what type of person are you, may be you should start to think to know yourself better before you let this lucky guy move into your life. Have a moment in a day and ask yourself about your relationship with Allah, your family, friends and your surroundings. Get to know your characters WELL.
Can you COMPROMISE?
After being asked a “Who am I” question, now you can move to the next question. “Can I COMPROMISE?”. A lot of things will change when you are in a serious relationship, more if you are getting married. When you love someone, you’ll tend to please them so much, until without you realizing it, you are trying so hard that you almost forget about your own happiness. And for man, don’t you take advantage on what she’s trying to do to make you happy.
God has created different kind of people with different types of life, different attitudes, which makes this world so wonderful. Sometimes things you love might not be the same as others.
Know his habits. Bear in mind, man and FOOTBALL are twins! Wednesday (sometimes Tuesday), Saturday and Sunday night are their NIGHTS! Nights that only spent on a couch, in front of the tv with a remote in hand. On the other hand, we ourselves want to watch our favorite serial drama from Japanese to Indonesian movies, from morning till midnight. That’s when both of us have to compromise *don’t think that having a second ASTRO decoder will solve your problem. Try to accept your love one the way they are so that both of you will be happy. Most importantly
Money..money..money..
While you plan for your wedding reception, you must be thinking about whether to have a expensive, extravagant wedding:
- in a super grand hall,
- limited guests, may be you don’t have much attention to them or worse - can’t even have a glimpse on them *perkahwinan grand-grand haruslah penuh dengan VVVVIP and tak lehla bawak satu kampung masuk hotel~
- delicious but limited food *you don’t think to have a buffet for your superb grandy wedding, do you?
- wearing a Rizalman’s dress that costs you the same amount of buying an apartment,
- Jimmi Choo heels,
- Tiffany’s wedding ring plus bracelet
- pelamin from Pak Abu
- honeymoon around the world
- and the list goes on…
OR just a simple, thoughtful and PERFECT wedding:
- Dewan KLIUC or buat kat rumah je..
- A lot of guests who you can treat them well, satisfy them
- A lot of food even you don’t have this rewang among your relatives or neighbours – feed the guests to the fullest!
- Dress by Aman Jauhari or Kimi Kajang or Man Kajang or even simple but DIVA-look dress from Sri Idaman Andaman
- Habib jer..
- Honeymoon kat Mesia jer..or at least Bali~
- And the simplest little thing for your wedding as the list goes..
When to have to think about it, having an expensive and grand wedding might cause a lot of money from both sides *unless you’re marrying a guy who thinks money is just a piece of paper which won’t guarantee you to have a perfect happy marriage life ahead. A lot of things should be taking into consideration like getting a house, buying furniture, fridge, washing machine, etc while on the other hand, you’re stuck in debt.
What I’m trying to say is don’t spend too much money on unnecessary things but save it for a bigger stuffs. Yeah..yeah..we only got married once in a life time, so we deserve something special~ BUT..there’s this old saying, "A Wedding is but a day, a Marriage is a lifetime." Which obviously give us a bigger picture on which one should we focus most!
Above all, I believe there are some other things that should be taking into consideration before you move into a new life. Marriage is not only about love each other but also living together as happy as ever. With all the responsibilities, think to live a happy life together for not only two, three, five or ten years ahead, but forever.
So friends, I’m expecting some response from you too. May you have the happiest life as a married couple, through thick and thin.
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