18 Cara Memikat Hati Suami

Assalammualaikum wbt

How are you? Semoga hari ini lebih baik daripada hari semalam hendaknya. Tadi masa browse FB, terjumpa tips ni. And I just feel like sharing it with you. :) Selamat mempraktis!

1. Akur pada suami
Sentiasa jujur, ikhlas dan taat pada suami. 

2. Berkelakuan baik terhadap suami
Jangan menyakiti hati suami dengan tingkah laku, bahasa ataupun tindakan. Sebaliknya, menjadi isteri yang 'melegakan' setiap kali suami pulang ke rumah. Jangan sampai suami menderita makan hati dalam diam. Sifat yang harus dielak ialah berleter dan bermasam muka.

3. Jang

an bebankan suami
Ada isteri terlalu 'demand', meminta itu dan ini sehingga suami pening kepala untuk memenuhi kehendak dan impian isteri. Jangan sampai suami terpaksa menerima rasuah atau salah guna kuasa semata-mata ingin memenuhi permintaan isteri.

4. Sentiasa bersolek untuk suami
Ramai isteri tidak suka bersolek di rumah malah ada yang kelihatan selekeh. Ada isteri yang merasakan mereka sudah tua dan tidak perlu bersolek hatta mengenakan sedikit gincu untuk kelihatan cantik di mata suami. Sedangkan menjadi fitrah lelaki sukakan kecantikan terutama melihat seorang wanita yang menawan. Walaupun suami tidak pernah bersungut tetapi hakikatnya mereka suka melihat jika isteri bersolek seadanya agar sentiasa kelihatan manis dan menarik. Sebolehnya, ubah imej mengikut citarasa suami.

5. Jangan suka sanggah dan menolak permintaan suami
Jangan biar malaikat melaknat isteri yang menderhaka atau sering menyanggah cakap suami.

6. Sentiasa mengingatkan dan berpesan pada suami
Ingatkan suami dan berpesan dalam apa jua perkara.

7. Perlu ada rasa takut dan hormat pada suami
Ia dapat elak daripada buat perkara tidak baik.

8. Jangan membelakangkan suami
Mesti minta izin suami terlebih dahulu walaupun tahu suami tidak marah. Ia sebagai cara menghormati suami. Biarpun perkara kecil, setiap isteri perlu menjaga hati suami.

9. Jaga harta suami
Ia adalah amanah kepada setiap isteri dan jangan sesekali menyalah guna ataupun menggunakannya untuk kepentingan sendiri.

~Dah tak jadi Wordless Wednesday~

: Hannah's first ride : Going to skool :

10. Isteri kena minta maaf segera jika buat salah / menderhaka pada suami
Jadikan ia amalan biasa dan jangan sesekali lengahkan, buat tidak tahu ataupun tunggu Hari Raya untuk minta maaf. Sesungguhnya isteri sebegini sentiasa dilaknat para malaikat.

11. Solat bersama suami
Jangan hanya tunggu apabila ada masalah, sebaliknya jadikan ia amalan harian untuk merapatkan hubungan dan mengelakkan menderhaka kepada suami.

12. Jangan perkecilkan pemberian suami biarpun tidak seberapa
Sebaliknya kena berterima kasih dan hormati diri nya sebagai suami terutama bagi isteri yang berkedudukan dan berkerjaya tinggi.

13. Perlu bermuka manis dan senyum pada suami
Isteri sedemikian akan dimuliakan di akhirat.

14. Pandang muka suami bila bercakap
Lihat dan tenung dengan penuh kasih sayang. Ia lebih dekat di hati. Bukan bercakap membelakangkan atau sambil buat kerja.

15. Jangan bawa virus barah (pergaduhan) dalam rumah tangga
Jangan biar suami berubah hati dan mencari wanita lain. Awas! punca suami kahwin lain ialah kerana ada benda yang tidak ada pada isteri.

16. Jangan terlalu kongkong suami
Beri kebebasan dengan batasan yang wajar. Jangan kerana terlalu prasangka sampai asyik telefon bertanya suami di mana, sentiasa bertekak, check telefon suami hingga suami tiada privasi.

17. Urut badan suami selepas balik kerja
Walaupun penat tetapi satu-satunya cara memikat suami ialah dengan memberi sentuhan pada suami.

18. Jaga makan minum suami
Guna ayat-ayat al-Quran dan bukannya bomoh untuk menambat hati suami. Ingatlah doa adalah lebih mujarab. Hulurkan segelas air setiap kali suami pulang dari kerja.

*Taatilah segala suruhan suamimu selagi tidak melanggar hukum hakam ALLAH

Source : FB Keharmonian Rumahtangga Dan Keluarga Muslim

Mother-Daughter Bonding. AWESOME.

Seronok spend weekend dengan Hannah. Well daddy was so busy doing things at the new house. So he couldnt join us.

That day we play pretend. I became a sick daughter and Hannah was the "mummy". She was so into it and I think she kinda loves pretending to be a mummy. But she still calls me "mummy". Heheh. Obviously.

*meet the mummy cum doctor*

I wonder why she put on my swimming goggles. Haha.



She came to me and said "temperature, mummy" while putting this long thing on my forehead.

"hurm. Panasnye.."

: The rolled sticker (cool fever), the long thing (thermometer) and mask-like semi circle (nebuliser) :

Then she used the sticker yang dah tak stick pun and put it on my forehead as well. I think she pretend it to be the cool fever. Clever girl!

"mummy, nah ni"

She gave me the mask-looked thing and pretend it like she was giving me a neb. T-T
Then i pretend to cough. She gave me that "neb" again. With a shuuuuuu sounds.


"ouh.mummy, nak bubur? Jap".

*Hannah's kitchen*

"nah mummy. Nak Hannah suap? Hurmm... Dap tak? Sedap kan"

*mummy, makan ni. Sayur. Banyak-banyak*

*mummy, minum susu dalam cup eh*

Mummy ok tak? Tido ye?

Then she left me for few minutes and then came back to check my temperature.

I feel so blessed. In a way she kindda know what to do to jaga orang sakit. Hoho. Hopefully she will continue taking care of us when she grow up.

Berkias dan Terus Terang, Mana Lebih Baik?

Aku teringin nak belajar pantun. Dah lama tak berpantun. Then terjumpa pantun berkias. Thanks to Dunia Penyair.

Anak tiung atas rambutan

Berbunyi bertongkat paruh

Berhenti kapal di lautan

Tiba angin berlayar jauh

Bukit Tinggi boleh didaki

Lurah dalam berkala-kala

Penat kaki boleh berhenti

Berat beban siapa membawa

Kampung Tengah kotanya landai

Permatang guntung ketinggian

Jangan lengah janjikan sampai

Untung-untung berkejadian

Dalam hidup kita, komunikasi adalah sangat penting. Terutamanya dalam perhubungan. Kata lelaki, perempuan adalah complicated. Kata perempuan, lelaki yang tak cuba fahami. Tapi sebenarnya, kekurangan komunikasi adalah punca. Perempuan tidak meluahkan apa yang dirasa, dan lelaki pula kadang-kadang ego dan tidak ingin berbincang.

Antara berkias dan berterus terang, mana yang lebih baik? Bagi aku sebenarnya dua-dua ni adalah penting.

Berkias boleh digunakan untuk pegi merisik anak dara orang ke.. nak pegi melamar dan sebagainya. Tapi, dalam berkias, perlu ada penjelasannya agar hajat yang dinyatakan tu tidak disalah erti. Kalau disalah erti, berlakulah communication break down.

Terus terang adalah penting dalam pelbagai aspek. Terutamanya dalam menyatakan sesuatu punca atau masalah.

"Cikgu, semalam hujan lebat kat rumah saya. Bumbung rumah saya bocor. Dah la tu, elektrik pula takde. Gelap gelita kat rumah saya semalam cikgu. Kesian saya dengan family semua tido dalam kebasahan dan kesejukan"

Boleh tak cakap je "Cikgu, saya tak sempat buat keje sekolah semalam. Maaf"

Kan lebih macho. Buat apa laaa ko dari KL nak pegi Kedah ko nak lalu Kuantan laa.. Terengganu la.. then masuk pulak Pasir Mas dan segala. Masuk highway terus je la ke Kedah. Tak perlu nak berlakon la.. pendam-pendam segala. Luahkan saja. Lebih mudah untuk segala pihak. Rimas tau kalau dok berkias tak tentu pasal. Cynical pulak tu kadang-kadang.. Haisyoo~ Macho sket boleh?

BIASANYA perempuan akan lebih banyak berkias. Trust me. Tetibe je tarik muncung, ajak makan tannak, tanya sepatah jawab sepatah, telefon tak jawab, sms pun tak reply.. Dan macam-macam karenah. Kalau tak suka, cakap je la.. Kalau suka ke sayang ke pun cakap jugak la.. Kalau ada yang tak kena, bagitau je. Tak payah pendam-pendam segala.

Siapa yang susah akhirnya? Sendiri jugak kan.. Sendiri jugak yang bangun tengah malam korek-korek nasi ada lagi tak dalam periuk. Tahan perut tannak makan sangat kan~

Amek pantun aku ni:

ibu bapa bersama anak

jalan-jalan di tengahari

suruh makan kau tannak

bangun malam tercari-cari

Chao Praya anak bubunya

ingin jelajah kota melaka

dalam cebu berisi bunga

bunga berendam si air mata

(pinjam pantun orang)

And lelaki pulak, kalau perempuan cakap apa yang dia rasa (pada masa yang betul..), mesti dia diam atau cakap "Eh, ye ke.. I'm sorry. I tak perasan pun" atau "La.. kenapa fikir yang bukan-bukan ni" atau "La.. I tak tau.." dan sewaktu dengannya.

Dalam perhubungan ni, kita kena tahu apa yang kita nak. Kalau kita tak tahu, tanya diri kita apa yang kita nak. Bila dah tahu apa yang kita nak, work it out~ Bila ada masalah, bincang. Jangan main marah tak tentu pasal.. Take a few minutes to discuss rather than spend the whole day to being so cranky laa.. marah-marah la.. whining and complaining. It's not good for your health too you know~

p.s. Ini edisi marah-dengan-diri-sendiri-sebab-tak-reti-stop-whining-and-complaining. Penat jugak nak paham maksud pantun tu kan..

Curang, Salah Siapa?

Konon nak tunggu sehingga Khamis kann. Tapi mana bole tahan.. Tangan gatal.. So, dalam kepeningan dok baca buku ni (study la konon), sempat lagi nak meluahkan apa yang terbuku. *Sementara tunggu MU main kejap lagi*.

No.. No.. No..

Jangan salah sangka nooo... Tajuk ini TEDA kena mengena dalam kehidupan aku.

So happen haritu aku ada tengok Oprah kat Hallmark Channel. Menarik sangat. Kadang-kadang apa yang dibincangkan tu adalah sangat inspiring. Tapi pada malam dan ketika itu, tajuk yang dibincangkan adalah pasal sebuah buku ---> The Truth About Cheating.

Well, dengar tajuk buku pun dah boleh agak kan.. Kajian penulis pasal lelaki yang curang terhadap isteri dia. Yeah..yeah.. memang ada isteri yang curang, tapi buku ni pasal LELAKI. Sila beri perhatian si isteri dan suami.

:)

Tahu kenapa lelaki curang?

1. Kurang kasih sayang dan perhatian dari isteri
2. Dah takde "touchy"2 lagi
3. Isteri kurang ambik berat katanya..
4. Merasa rendah diri bila isteri tak layan sangat - ye la.. sibuk dengan anak la.. keje laa..
5. Lelaki rasa "hilang kepentingan" dalam rumah
6. Lelaki rasa "not winning anymore" --> dah tak macho la..

dan yeah of course, MEN CAN GIVE THOUSANDS OF REASONS WHY THEY CHEATED ON THE WIFE. Tapi yang dinyatakan tu basically hasil perbincangan dalam show tu and apa yang ditulis oleh penulis dan yang diluahkan oleh penonton yang ada dalam show tu la. Kalau nak lebih detail, boleh cari buku ni.

Nampak reason no.1 tu? Membuatkan isteri mula berfikir kan.. dan berkata, "Hurrmm.... "

And surprisingly, kebanyakan lelaki-lelaki yang curang ni bukan sebab kurang seks di rumah atau mencari seks di luar rumah, DAN orang ketiga tu BUKAN LAH CANTIK mana sangat pun..

See?

Lelaki sebenarnya kononnya nak lebih perhatian dari isteri. Nak isteri belai-belai.. Tanya-tanya.. Ambik berat lebih sikit..

TAPI

Si isteri ni pulak tak perlu di belaikah?

Isteri juga sibuk dengan urusan keluarga, anak, kerja.. Banyak jugak komitmen. Salah isteri ke suami curang? Atau memang lelaki mengambil kesempatan di atas "ketidaklayanan" isteri?

Rasanya lelaki perlukan belaian wanita dan wanita JUGA perlukan lelaki..

Tahu tanda-tanda lelaki curang??

Jeng..jeng..jeng...

1. Asyik mengelak perbualan dengan isteri especially bila isteri tanya soalan-soalan caring macam "Awak dah makan?" "How's work?"
2. Kejap kejap sms, kejap kejap call.. Then cakap sorok-sorok
3. Kerap keluar malam dan waktu huung minggu
4. Dah tak banyak komunikasi dengan anak-anak juga
5. Cepat marah bila isteri tanya banyak, "Keluar dengan siapa?" "Awak nak pergi mana?"

Cukup la kot 5...

Bila kita macam dah boleh agak simptom-simptom ni, kita dah boleh mula ambik langkah-langkah pencegahan, macam nak buat siasatan ke.. Nak bincang-bincang ke. Bukan la sampai nak pasang spy ke, apa ke.. Yang penting ada KOMUNIKASI yang baik. Sila communicate. Jangan salah paham and buat assumption sendiri. Itu yang selalunya tambah lagi masalah tu. Masing-masing pandai buat andaian sendiri. Haisssyyyooo~

So, melalui perbincangan tu la kita nilai balik. JIKA BETUL isteri mula rasa kurang bagi tumpuan pada suami, kita muhasabah balik.. Cari penyelesaian dan kembali padanya. Kalau suami pulak rasa macam kurang diberi perhatian, jangan dok gatai cari "perhatian" dari luar pulak nooo.. It's a BIG no-no.. :D Orang dah ada kat depan mata, hargai laa.. Syukur apa yang ada.. Memang la isteri kita tu takkan sama (bentuk badan, perangai, cara cakap dan lain-lain) sepanjang 10 tahun perkahwinan (atau lebih).. Manusia sentiasa berubah. Dan kita tak boleh paksa orang kekal macam tu je perangai dia sampai dia mati. People DO change, dude.

Rasanya dua-dua perlu main peranan. Baru lah harmoni rumah tangga. Dan wanita, yang paling penting, JAGA TANGGUNGJAWAB sebagai seorang isteri. Sehebat mana pun kita di pejabat, syurga tetap di bawah kaki suami~


p.s. minta-minta laaa MU menang malam ni~ Hurmm...

Bila Ada Di Depan Mata, Tak Pernah Nak Hargai.. Bila Sudah Teda? Baru Mencari Kah?

Kebanyakan perhubungan macam tu. Kan? I said KEBANYAKAN. Tidak semua~ Tapi kalau anda bernasib baik dan mendapat seseorang yang sentiasa menghargai korang, bagus laa.. Dan bersyukurlah. What more can you ask than someone who always care. Tak gitu?

:)

Pepagi dah membebel pasal relationship. No..no..no.. Salah tu. Aku ok sajor~ Cuma bila membaca emel yang kawan aku bagi ni, terdetik di hati kecilku ini.. Kenapa kebanyakan dari kita selalu menjadi macam ni. Bukan nak salahkan lelaki, sebab perempuan pun ada macam ni.. Cuba korang baca..

To those who are married, .. Not married .. and soon to be married
(This is really a good reminder)

MARRIAGE

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce... I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now..

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

: Thanks to Google :

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions... She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully...

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. >From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time... I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart..

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

: Thanks to google :

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I ran up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead......I cried and cried uncontrollably and carried her for the last time from the room to the hall with tears streaming down my face and gazing at my only son, his tears rolling from his eyes, they made me cry even more. I had lost my love, my wife and a loving and caring mother and nothing I could do now to put the clock backward. I had all the time now to look at her motionless body in detail but I knew it was going to be only for a short while until she made her last journey to the Lord......I held my son and wept again and again thinking of all the things I did not do for her when she was still alive.........and placed gently the flowers in her hands with my tears trickling on them........she was gone forever, all my tears would not bring her back .

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy.. Do have a real happy marriage!

Mungkin ada dikalangan kita yang pernah baca cerita ni. Aku tak sure samada cerita ni memang realiti ke.. atau rekaan semata ke... TAPI, dalam banyak-banyak orang yang baca cerita ni, berapa banyak yang betul-betul ambik iktibar? Korang tengok la.. Kerajaan siap sampai buat pakej percutian untuk pasangan-pasangan yang dalam masalah semata-mata nak mengurangkan kadar penceraian kat Malaysia ni. Ini kalau yang dah kawen.. Kalau yang belum? Laaaaaaaaagi ramai.. Relationship is kinda complicated if you complicate it. Tak gitu Che Bedah?

Tapi tu la.. Kehidupan kita ni tidak akan berubah kalau kita sendiri yang tidak mengubahnya. If you think you have to change to be a better person, why not? Find your own peace of mind, make yourself happy~ Cause people would never make you happy if you don't want to be happy.

Nasihat Untuk Kawan-Kawan

Er...tetiba je dah habis bulan Julai kan?

Tetibe saje wan maisarah menyepi kan..

Dan tetibe saje..wan maisarah kembali...

:D

Ampun dan maaf..sebab kehidupan di bulan Julai ini adalah sangat mengujakan dan memenatkan tetapi mengasyikkan dan tidak dilupakan juga, menyeronokkan!!

Dari "melayan" kehadiran MU, family day ofis dear, saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaampai la ke family day my family..

Sebenarnya baru balik dari Melaka. Last nite. Family Day untuk tahun ni banyak diuruskan sendiri oleh wanmaisarah dan kazen2 terchenta.. So disebabkan itulah diri ini sangat bz. Serious beb. Mana dengan keje kat ofis lagi, dan dengan nak uruskan family day ni lagi.. Best!!! Er...nanti wanmaisarah hidangkan korang dengan gambar-gambar ye.. banyak hutang gambar aku dengan korang nih..

My close fren baru je selamat diijabkabulkan. Im soo sorry twin I couldn't make it, and i really hope you'll understand.. Anyway, Semoga berbahagia hingga ke anak cucu.. Nasihat aku adalah:-

"Pergaduhan itu adalah perkara biasa dalam hubungan sebagai suami isteri. Sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit.. tapi kadang-kadang kita gigit pipi jugak kan.. itu la ibaratnya.. Yang penting, kalau ko gado, ko merajuk, jangan lama-lama..tunggu sampai dia pujuk.. Kalau tak pujuk jugak, er... ko cakap macam ni kat dia,

"Hantar saya balik rumah mak saya!"

Tapi ko kene cakap ni secara tiba-tiba.

Contoh senario:
Pasangan berada di meja makan. Sedang makan. Selepas si suami baca doa makan dan ingin memulakan suapan pertama, ko cakap dengan nada keras "Hantar saya balik rumah mak saya". Samada dia tersembur nasi sebab terkejut, atau sembur nasi sebab nak tergelak. Kebiasaannya, er... dear tersembur nasi sebab tak tahan nak gelak. Dan berakhirlah satu pergaduhan..

:D

Sekian nasihat aku untuk ko wahai sahabat. Dan untuk korang-korang juga... Aku dah praktikkan ini dari masa zaman berkapel dulu, sampai la sekarang.. Setakat ni masih berjaya. Walaupun ada sekali tu, kat atas katil (tiada unsur 18SX disini), aku ingat dia belum tido, aku pon dengan bagusnya menahan suara dan pitching, berkata "Hantar saya balik rumah mak saya". Tetiba takde respond. Diamm... je. Aku pelik. Cakap lagi sekali. Diam jugak. Rupa-rupanya dah tido. Jadi pergaduhan itu bersambung lagi sehari..

:D

Nasihat kawan aku kat aku,

"Kalau bergaduh, jangan panjang-panjang lama-lama.. Bila tido tu, peluk dia erat-erat.. Macamtu la kemesraan tu perlu dikekalkan.. Dan insyaAllah, esok pagi mesti suami bangun dengan penuh senyuman dan pergaduhan itu pon berakhir..."

Kesimpulannya, jangan bergaduh.. Berhiduplah dengan tenang... Apa yang penting, KOMUNIKASI... Takde komunikasi, abeh laa korang~

Sekian coretan untuk hari ini. Nanti aku cerita lagi okeh.

Take care all~

Friends, But NOT Friends

I watched House last week. It was "Dying Changes Everything".


In this episode, Wilson is grieving over the lost of Amber. And she actually died (in previous episode - Season 4). Amber dies because she is on a bus and she is only on the bus because House called Wilson to be picked up because he was drunk and Amber comes to pick him up but he goes off to take the bus instead and she follows him to protect him.

* I copy the statement about Amber here*

So, Wilson really feel bad and he decided to leave the hospital. Resign and move on. Build new life without Amber.

But, House would never let he go. Obviously he'll loose his best friend, his sidekick. Wilson is the only one who close to him. While he tried to persuade Wilson and really talk to him (without mocking and insulting of course), this is what House got from Wilson.


"We're not okay. Amber was never the reason I was leaving. I didn't want to tell you because— because I was trying like I always do to protect you, which is the problem. You spread misery because you can't feel anything else. You manipulate people because you can't handle any kind of real relationship. And I've enabled it. For years. The games. The binges. The middle-of-the-night phone calls. I should have been the one on the bus not—. You should have been alone on the bus. If I've learned anything from Amber it's that I have to take care of myself. We're not friends any more, House. I'm not sure we ever were."


Gawd!

Sedih kan?

I could never imagine if there's someone treating me like that. I mean, yeah, I'm not the kindda friend who's nice to everyone. I'm not a good friend either. Well, sometimes people make mistakes, and GREAT friend will always tell you what's right and what's wrong. But, how far do you want people to tell you what you should and should not do kan? Or sampai bila nak macam tu kan?

Friends might say, "Takkan semua pon aku nak bagitau. Ko dah besar. You can think by your own, right."

Yes.

That's right. But like I said earlier, we can't satisfy everyone. Some may like what I do, and some may not. We live in a different world, different places withe different people. So if you don't like what I do, just tell straight to my face. I'd rather feel "pain" than to be rejected. I don't like people to prentend being my friend, sedangkan deep in your heart you don't even think I'm your friend. Just like how Wilson did.

Pity House.

Ok.

It's not really how I feel. I don't write based on how I feel. Well, at least not right now. But it's just what I thought when I watched the drama.

Apa akan aku buat if there really is someone like that?
What if that "someone" is actually my friend?
And what if, that friend is actually pretending to be MY friend?

I just can't imagine.


And again, I watched House last night.

So sad. I feel sorry for House. I don't know why. But I just can't help to imagine that I was House.

Cane?

Friends, if you don't like me, remember to tell me okay~ Just tell me..

I think I can change~

For good~

('_')

MAN Woman Wants

What kindda man do woman prefer?

The kindda man who loves her more than she loves him?

or

The kindda man who she loves him more than he loves her?

How about you?

Hari Ini dan Semalam

Satu ketika dulu, 6th Sense pernah menyanyikan lagu ini :-

Hari Ini dan Semalam

Hari ini kau datang riang
Tersenyum buatku senang
Kau hias dirimu
Membuat hati bertambah sayang

Tapi wajahmu semalam muram
Mengapa dewi mengapa
Mungkinkah aku bersalah
Cubalah dewi katakan

Jangan dewi jangan begitu
Senyum-senyumlah selalu
Manis riang
Wajah bertambah jelita

Lagu ini ala-ala macam nak pujuk si jelita yang sedang merajuk. Sejuuuuuk hati dengar. Pemujukan yang dimulakan dengan puji-pujian memang sedap didengar. Hati pun cepat sejuk.

Kata orang tua-tua, kalau nak marahkan kekaseh hati, jangan terus marah-marah, tengking-tengking. Mulakan dengan 7 pujian dan diakhiri dengan satu kritikan. Petua ni boleh juga kalau nak tegur anak-anak buah kat pejabat ke, suami ke, nak tegur bos ke atau sesapa saja. kata orang, ayat mau power~


Sebagai contoh:

1. Daling, hensemnye awak harini;
2. Wangi pulak tu;
3. Dengan baju yang awak pakai ni, bergayanya saya tengok;
4. Pandai awak matchkan dengan tie pulak tu;
5. Ditambah pulak dengan gaya rambut, Shah Rukh Khan tengok pun menangis;
6. Apatah lagi kalau awak bawak kereta Neo awak tu, perghh... berdesup laju.. Tergugat jiran kita Daling;
7. Kalau kat tempat kita ni, takde orang lain yang pandai bawak kereta macam awak Daling;

Cuma..


[ kat sini pause lama sikit... taktik ni..taktik..]



[1] Kalau la awak pandai tukar stokin awak tiap-tiap hari, kan bagus.. baru la kemachoan Daling saya ni makin terserlah~

Gitew... kan senang.. Takde la kita rasa bersalah sangat nak tegur menda-menda yang boleh memalukan si dia. Dan takde lah kita pulak yang memendam rasa, menanggung derita dengan bau yang Tuhan saja yang tahu.. Hehe.

Apa pun, Selamat mencuba!

Perhatian Lelaki-Lelaki!

Pada sekitar bulan Januari tahun lepas, lebih kurang waktu-waktu macam sekarang ni, aku telah bercakap dengan seorang kawan lelaki aku yang telah mendirikan rumah tangga. Pada masa tu, aku belum pun berniat untuk mempunyai rumah yang bertangga. Namun, naluri wanitaku ketika itu terdetik untuk bertanyakan soalan-soalan cepu emas berbaur gedik-gedik nak kawen dari kawan aku yang sorang ni.

"Kalau aku nak kahwin, apa tips yang boleh ko share dengan aku eh?"

Jawab si kawan aku ni..

"Banyak! Apa yang ko nak tau?"

"Er..aku tak reti masak sangat..Ko rasa, lelaki boleh terima ke?"

"Kalau dia sayang ko, mestila dia terima. Tapi, ko jangan risau. Lelaki ni ada cara nak handle isteri yang tak pandai masak sangat. Aku ajar ko, nanti ko ajar boy friend ko ye.."

Kawan aku ni sambung lagi..


[1] Sebagai suami, harus la si lelaki tu menggalakkan isteri masak. Sokongan dari segi moralnya termasuk fizikal. Lepas isteri masak, suami cuci pinggan dan kemas-kemas dapur. Kalau si isteri panggil makan, cepat-cepat la bangun ke meja makan (walaupun masa tu si suami sangat penat dan kenyang). Itu namanya moral support.

[2] Suami mesti menghargai masakan isteri. Untuk mengelakkan sebarang rasa tidak puas hati yang akhirnya boleh menyebabkan pergaduhan, suami perlu main peranan, yakni :-


[a] Masa mula mula nak makan, ambik nasi satu atau dua senduk saja (lebih sikit dari biasa). Sebabnya nanti korang boleh tambah banyak kali. Sebab lapar kan.. Walaupun sebenarnya ni macam tipu jugak, tapi itu tak penting sangat. Isteri SUKA sangat tengok suami makan tambah banyak-banyak kali.

[b] Sebelum isteri sempat tanya soalan "diluah mati emak, ditelan mati bapak" yakni "Sedap tak saya masak?", suami perlu puji kesedapan makanan walaupun masakan tu biasa je..takde la sedap sangat. Tahu kenapa? Sebab bila isteri yang tanya soalan cepu emas tu dulu, parah!

Kalau korang jawab "Uuuhh...sedapnya isteri abang masak.."

Mesti dia akan cakap "Abang perli saya la tuh. Mentang mentang laa saya ni tak reti masak.."

Atau

Korang berterus terang "Er..sedap..tapi..masin sikit la sayur ni.."

Hah! Ampeh! Ni memang mencari nahas~

Isteri kompem jawab "Yela..yela..saya ni tak pandai masak! Esok kita makan luar je la.." Dia akan mula merajuk yang korang sendiri belum tentu boleh pujuk.

Tengok? Kan ke soalan "Sedap tak masakan saya malam ni?" tu merupakan soalan maut. Jawapan mana satu yang korang nak pilih? Jadi sebelum dia tanya, suami sila puji terlebih dahulu. Lebih afdhal kalau pujian tu diberi sebaik sahaja selesai membuat suapan pertama. =D


[c] Setiap petang sebelum isteri balik dari ofis (kalau dia seorang wanita berkerjaya la kan), mesti dia akan telefon si suami untuk tanya "Abang, malam ni nak makan apa?" Sebab, isteri yang tak reti masak, masa dia kat ofis la dia nak surf internet, print mana-mana resepi yang patut. Isteri tak de idea nak masak apa, sebab yang dia tahu masak telur goreng sahaja. Kalau sekali dua isteri tanya macamtu, larat lagi la korang nak menjawab. Kadang-kadang teringin nak makan kari ayam la, asam pedas la, masak kicap la.. Banyak idea kan si suami ni. Tapi..kalau dah tiap-tiap petang dia asyik telefon tanya, larat ke korang nak layan? Sekali time dia telefon tu, tengah mesyuarat penting ke, tengah bincang dengan bos ke.. Kalau tak jawab kang makin marah pulak dia. Jadi, apa yang suami boleh buat ialah menjawab panggilan isteri dan dengan selamba menjawab,

"Saya makan apa saja yang awak masak. Saya pon taktau nak pilih yang mana satu sebab semua yang awak masak tu sedapppp sangat. Apa kata awak masak makanan kegemaran awak pulak.."

Lepas je suami jawab macam tu, sah, isteri takkan tanya lagi dah pada hari-hari berukitnya. Bukannya apa, isteri ni takut dia masak tak sedap..maklumla baru je nak belajar masak..jadi suami kena sangat memahami la eh.. Bila isteri nak dapat keyakinan untuk masak, mesti laju je dia masak.

So itu saja tips pasal isteri-isteri yang tak reti masak.. Tapi aku rasa sebenarnya tips ni lebih sesuai untuk suami je. Bukannya untuk isteri sangat pon.. Aku rasa aku nak tambah satu la.


[3] Suami jangan kecik hati ye..masa mula-mula belajar masak, isteri akan ambik masa yang saaaaangat lama untuk siapkan hidangan. Kadang-kadang tu, dalam masa 2 jam, dia hanya mampu siapkan 2 jenis lauk sajor, iaitu telur goreng dan sayur rebus. Jadi, sabar la eh.. Bagi dia masa untuk belajar. Bila dia dah pandai masak, kari ikan tu 10 minit je dah siap~ Eheh. \o/

Kepada semua wanita, kalau boleh tu, belajar la masak sebelum kahwen. Bukannya apa, kadang-kadang tu sebab masakan la kita boleh menambat hati suami~ Gunakan peluang yang ada sebaik mungkin ya! Selamat menjadi isteri solehah~

If I Were A Boy

I love this song. If I were a boy by Beyonce. But today I found out about the one she sang with R Kelly. And I found it really interesting. It's soooooooo cool! And to me, it's like a conclusion about a man-woman relationship. Wanna listen to the song? Listen here. And you can sing along with the song. And I hope you'll find what I mean..

IF I WERE A BOY

(Beyonce Feat. R. Kelly)

[Beyonce:]
If I were a boy
Even just for a day
I'd roll out of bed in the morning
And throw on what i wanted then go
Drink beer with the guys
And chase after girls
I'd kick it with who I wanted, and I'd never get confronted for it
Cuz they'd stick up for me

If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
'Cuz I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
'Cuz he's taken you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed

[R. Kelly:]
If you were a boy
Then, girl, you'd understand
You need to stop listenin' to your friends
Love, respect, and trust your man
So I go to clubs with the guys
And sometimes flirt with the girls
I should be able to roll out, as long as I'm comin' home to you
And give you the world

But you're not a boy
So you don't have a clue
How I work and pay the bills
How everything I do is for you

[Beyonce:]
I'd listen to her
'Cuz I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
'Cuz he's taken you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed

[Beyonce:]
If I were a boy (If I were a girl)
I would turn off my phone (I wouldn't play games)
Tell everyone it's broken
So they'd think that I was sleeping alone (girl you know that's wrong)
I'd put myself first
And make the rules as I go
'Cuz I know that she'd be faithful
Waiting for me to come home, to come home

[R. Kelly:]
But you're not a boy
So you can't understand
You are not a perfect woman
And I am not a perfect man

[Beyonce:]
I'd listen to her
'Cuz I know how it hurts (and I know how you feel)
When you lose the one you wanted
'Cuz he's taken you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed (said I'm sorry)

[Beyonce:]
It's a little too late for you to come back

[R. Kelly:]
But I can't let you go, 'cuz I'm too attached
If you thought I would wait for you
You thought wrong

But you're just a boy....

Women and The "Killing" Words

Who says women don't have the "killing" words? =D. I got this e-mail from my friend. And I don't really know where he got this..

Well, it stated there that there are 9 words women frequently used especially towards Men. So I gez mebi men should pay more attention on this matter~


[1] Fine :
This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

[2] Five Minutes :
If she is getting dressed, this means a half and hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

[3] Nothing :
This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with "Nothing" will usually end in "Fine".

[4] Go Ahead :
This is a dare, not a permission. DON'T DO IT!

[5] Loud Sigh :
This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here an arguing with you about nothing (Refer back to #3 for the clear meaning of "Nothing").

[6] That's Oukay :
This is one of the MOST DANGEROUS statements a women can make to a man. That's Oukay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

[7] Thanks :
A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' ... that will bring on a 'whatever').

[8] Whatever :
Is a women's way of saying "Daymn you" or "Kuang aja kao" or "Sengal la kao neyh" or even worst "F u!"

[9] Don't worry about it, I got it :
Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response please refer to #3.


Ah, well.. That's what it says there. Basically, there are rights and wrongs too. I hafta admit about #1, 2 and 3. And #4, 6, 8 and also #9. That's not all right? Women are complicated, but deep in our heart, we're the simplest creature on earth. We just don't really care about what people say (but sometimes we do, especially things involving our appearance, beauty, whether we're fatter or thinner and stuff), but we WOULD BE REALLY APPRECIATE if MEN COULD UNDERSTAND US better, without we even tell them at all the time. Yeah, I think that's what we want, what I want.

All we need is just a little hug and kisses when we're loosing mind, just a pat on the back when we're down, a smile on the face when we're in need and telling

"That's okay, you can do better" (with a huge hug would be nice.. \o/)

rather than

"What's wrong with you..If you don't like it that much, just don't do it".

Izzit really hard just to give us a HUG, KISSES, and A HAND TO HOLD??

Pregnant Kah?

Sebagai menyahut cabaran sahabat saya, kali ni saya akan menggunakan Bahasa Malaysia SEPENUHNYA. Ya, SEPENUHNYA. =)

Pejam celik..pejam celik..sekarang dah hampir masuk bulan Disember. Ini menandakan sudah genap lima bulan saya jadi isteri. Menarik tak menariknya menjadi seorang isteri ni, Banyak yang saya belajar dalam tempoh lima bulan ni. Mungkin masih baru untuk saya cakap banyak mengenai perkahwinan, tetapi walau macamanapun, saya ada 'tiket' untuk bercakap mengenai perkahwinan.

Boleh dikatakan setiap hari, akan ada orang yang bertanya,

"Cik Wan, dah berisi ke belum?"

atau

"Sudah ada rezeki?"

atau mungkin

"Lain macam je nampak..ada apa-apa dah ke?"


Walau berapa banyak bentuk pertanyaan yang dilemparkan, maksudnya tetap satu. Dan saya pun ada SATU jawapan kepada seribu bentuk soalan, YAKNI :-


"Tak. Saya masih tidak mengandung. Er..mungkin perut saya makin moncet, tetapi itu bukanlah tanda-tanda saya mengandung.. Elo kawan..meh saya cerita apa tanda-tanda orang mengandung ya~"


MENGANDUNGKAH ANDA? Meh, kita periksa!

1. Bagi wanita-wanita yang mempunyai kitar menstrual yang normal, senang sangat nak kesan samada dia mengandung atau tidak, iaitu tiba-tiba saja dia tak datang haid. Kalau datang bulan pun mungkin sedikit lewat daripada biasa, atau mempunyai pendarahan yang sedikit berbanding biasa.
   
   
2. Bagi sesetengah wanita, akan mengalami pembengkakan buah dada dan puting. Ini disebabkan oleh perubahan hormon estrogen dan progestron yang dalam proses untuk bersedia ke arah penyususan nanti.
   
   
3. Wanita-wanita yang mengandung ni, pada peringkat awal, mesti akan terasa kepenatan tahap lampau. Er..dengan erti kata lain, kalau selalu boleh berjalan kaki untuk buang sampah di hadapan rumah (yang jaraknya mungkin dalam 30 hingga 50 meter sahaja), tapi kalau mengandung, dia dah tak larat dah nak berjalan, walaupun dari dapur nak ke pintu depan rumah. Hal ini bukannya apa, perubahan hormon ke arah persediaan untuk 'menyambut' bayi ni, sedikit sebanyak memaksa badan bekerja lebih keras daripada biasa untuk menyesuaikan keadaan dengan perubahan hormon tersebut. Tetapi ada jugak wanita yang mungkin terlebih tidur (iaitu sehingga melebihi 12 jam satu malam) boleh juga mengalami kepenatan tahap lampau ni.. Tetapi mungkin la tak mengandung kan.. =D.
   
   
4. Kalau dulu boleh berjalan mengelilingi Mid Valley dari jam 10 pagi sampai 10 malam, sekarang ni dari tempat parkir kereta pun dah tak larat berjalan masuk ke dalam Mall. Bercampur dengan makhluk-makhluk yang berpusu-pusu kat Mid Valley tu, sampai cepat rasa pening-pening.. meloya dan sebagainya. Wanita mengandung akan rasa loya-loya, pening nak muntah ni biasanya antara minggu keempat hingga kelapan. Tapi ada jugak yang mengalami muntah-muntah ni seawal dua minggu lepas tarikh konsepsi, dan ada jugak wanita yang tak mengalami loya-loya ni langsung.. Masa tempoh 'pening-muntah' ni la kadang-kadang rasa tak boleh bau kopi laa, bau badan suami, bau wangi-wangian, malah ada yang tak tahan bau sabun pun. Masa ni laa khidmat dan sokongan suami sangat diperlukan. Jadi, kaum lelaki, haruslah lebih tabah ye~
   
   
5. Dalam tempoh sekitar trisemester yang pertama, wanita mengandung akan kerap ulang-alik ke tandas. Mesti rasa nak buang air kecil. Ini disebabkan oleh 'pembinaan' dinding uterus. Persediaan untuk 'memberi keselesaan' kepada bayi anda nanti.. Walau bagaimanapun, janganla sampai tertidur dalam tandas ya!
   
   

Setakat yang boleh saya baca dan kaji, ini adalah merupakan antara tanda-tanda awal la *yang tak de satu pun pada saya - mengesahkan yang saya TIDAK MENGANDUNG*.

Sepanjang tempoh sembilan sepuluh hari ni, memang banyak dugaan yang akan dihadapi oleh pasangan. Ini semua bergantung kepada pasangan tersebut, bagaimana hendak menangani masalah dan pelbagai ragam isteri. Isteri pun jangan terlalu 'mengambil kesempatan'.. =D

Ada pasangan muda yang baru beberapa hari berkahwin, sudah dikurniakan Allah dengan 'rezeki' melimpah.. Jangan dikesali pemberian Illahi. Walaupun belum bersedia, sesungguhnya Allah itu Maha Penyayang kerana Dia masih memberi kita masa yang lama untuk bersedia. Saya pasti tempoh sembilan bulan itu cukup untuk pasangan suami isteri untuk bersedia menjadi ibubapa yang baik.

Jadi, tiada alasan untuk tidak menjadi ibubapa yang soleh dan solehah untuk membina sebuah keluarga bahagia.

How To Start A Relationship?

There are a lot of ways.. I bet you don't wanna know it all.. But basically, it all started from your heart. And trust me, I don't really believe in "Dari mata turun ke hati" kindda relationship. It's all crap~ You know why? I'll tell you why.

Sebab, mata hanya menafsir berdasarkan apa yang kita lihat sahaja dan akhirnya hanya memberi persepsi luaran. Bolehkah sebarang perhubungan itu dibina atas dasar luaran? Jika boleh, sejauh mana hubungan itu akan bertahan?

KEBIASAANNYA, hubungan yang lahir dari pandangan mata tidak bertahan lama. *But this is only my humble opinion*. Melainkan dari mata, pergi ke otak untuk ditafsir dengan lebih lanjut dan mengenali pasangan dengan lebih rapat sebelum menjalinkan sesebuah hubungan yang serius. Yess! Jangan bertindak terburu-buru. Ambil masa..Take your own time..But puh-lease~ don't get too long ya~

Anyway, as a woman, a lady, a girl, how many of us have been in a serious relationship since they were at young age? I'd say only 50%. For some people like me, I only know what exactly love is when I was in my 20's. Say..er...23? No! 21. *hehe..malu nak ngaku laa..* I know it's a bit too late to figure out, but hey, I chose the rite one! Alhamdulillah~

So, at least I started dating when I was in the early 20's. There are still a lot of women who are still looking for the perfect person to share their love with, walopun umor dah mencecah angka 30..40..and 50 pown ada!.

However, nomatter how old are you now, everyone of us deserve to love and to be loved. As a human being, we need love to cheerish our life. In order for us to be loved, first thing you hafta do is love yourself.

Back in USM, I had this one honest, smart, simple, "geek" girlfriend I barely know when I was in my second year. *She's the one who helped me out a lot when me and dear had our difficult time in our relationship, at that moment. Thanks loads MakCik* While she was busy "helping me out", she herself didn't really involve in any special relationship with any guy. Yeah, she had no steady boyfriend. That's why she had a thought in mind "Paseipa laaaa depa ni qhajin begadoh sangat..Dok la leklok..Ni tidak..Akuuuuu...jugak.." She just couldn't really understand. But obviously she could think a way to console me~ eheh. Becouse she's smart! And gorgeous too. *Promote sket. Eheh~*

Last few days, she gave me a called. And she told me she's seeing someone. And I said "Whut??? CONGRATSSSSS!!!!" Hahaha.. I was soooooooo daymn happy cause she finally find someone to be loved and I'm sooo glad! But on the other hand, I couldn't notice the happy voices as she used to be. So I asked her why..

"Aku slalu gado jugak laaa..Macam hang dolu-dolu..Macamana hang handle aaa"

Hurm..

"It's been 25 years you'd been handling things on your own. Nobody to ask, no one to 'report' to, no commitment other than to your family, job and few things to run your life..Now, ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE READY FOR ANOTHER COMMITMENT? Are you ready to accept him in your life?" I began asking her the questions..

Well, I give you one situation. I learn this from The Secret written by Rhonda Byrne. And Dihar quoted part of it, and it goes like this...

" If you want to be in a relationship, you should think and act accordingly to what you want. For example if you usually put stuff on the seat beside the driver seat, its like saying you are not wanting a relationship cause you are not letting people sit in that seat. Therefore you need to clear it up to allow somebody to actually sit in it."

And I would say..


"Relationship is like riding a bus heading to places. Various places. People hop in and out. They come and go to continue their journey. Left an empty seat beside you. Since you are carrying a lot of stuff, you put put them on it. Suddenly the bus stop and two men came up. One is a real nasty man smells like garlic and rotten fish and look so untidy and has some cash, enough for his ride. ONLY. The other one is sooo daymn gorgeous, neat, tall, wearing expensive clothes and you bet he's rich. \o/. So, who will you offer the seat beside you? Or you just ignore both and pretend that you were sleeping, don't really bother to move your stuff from the seat?"

My first point is, you will be meeting a lot of people along the journey. If you wanna start a relationship, you hafta accept someone into your life. So, you hafta allow someone to seat beside you on the bus. Then only you start to know him. If you don't, how can you start knowing him? When you accept people in your life, do it honestly. Full heartedly. Then you will plant the greatest seed in your relationship. InsyaAllah..

My second point, choose the right one. Like I said, people come and go. It's you to decide who is your Mr. Right. Don't be silly by getting fooled with the outer look. The garlic smelly man might be a Private Investigator who is doing a cover up. And the handsome rich guy might be a drug dealer ke..Pencetak rompak ke..you knoe..that kindda thing might happen. Choosing the right guy before you settle down is VERY MUCH important.

My last point will be, along the bus ride, there will be a lot of difficulties. You know, traffic jam, uneven road, land slide, and road accidents ke.. It takes all you effort, patience, courage and motivation tau in order for you to get to your destination. You hafta hold each other hand, pray to God, and face the problem together. Talk and talk and always talk when you are having any problems. Don't keep things behind anyone's back cause that will solve nothing.

I guess that's all I could tell. And believe me, The Secret is the best book for you to read and the book you should buy for yourself. Not only it tells about secret of your relationship but your own life. Things you don't really notice..Enjoy building a relationship with your love ones!